Showing posts with label friendship. Show all posts
Showing posts with label friendship. Show all posts

Tuesday, June 7, 2011

The Rest is just Sand

When things in your life seem almost too much to handle, when 24 hours in a day are not enough, remember the mayonnaise jar and the 2 glasses of wine...

A professor stood before his philosophy class and had some items in front of him. When the class began, wordlessly, he picked up a very large and empty mayonnaise jar and proceeded to fill it with golf balls.


He then asked the students if the jar was full. They agreed that it was.


The professor then picked up a box of pebbles and poured them into the jar. He shook the jar lightly. The pebbles rolled into the open areas between the golf balls. He then ask ed the students again if the jar was full.


They agreed it was.


The professor next picked up a box of sand and poured it into the jar. Of course, the sand filled up everything else He asked once more if the jar was full. The students responded with an unanimous 'yes.'


The professor then produced two glasses of wine from under the table and poured the entire contents into the jar, effectively filling the empty space between the sand.

The students laughed.

'Now,' said the professor, as the laughter subsided, 'I want you to recognize that this jar represents your life. The golf balls are the important things; your family, your children, your health, your friends, and your favourite passions; things that if everything else was lost and only they remained, your life would still be full.'


The pebbles are the other things that matter like your job, your house, and your car. The sand is everything else; the small stuff.


'If you put the sand into the jar first,' he continued, 'there is no room for the pebbles or the golf balls. The same goes for life. If you spend all your time and energy on the small stuff, you will never have room for the things that are important to you.'


'Pay attention to the things that are critical to your happiness. Play with your children. Take time to get medical checkups. Take your partner out to dinner. Play another 18. Do one more run down the ski slope. There will always be time to clean the house and fix the waste disposal. Take care of the golf balls first; the things that really matter. Set your priorities. The rest is just sand.'


One of the students raised her hand and inquired what the wine represented.


The professor smiled. 'I'm glad you asked. It just goes to show you that no matter how full your life may seem, there's always room for a couple of glasses of wine with a friend.' 




Thursday, June 2, 2011

A Novel


If you have not read "Pain Unforgiven", do yourself a favor and pick up a copy.... I have laughed, cried and had memories flood my very core while on my journey through this book....

Sunday, March 20, 2011

Monday, March 7, 2011

Haji, the firefighters friend..

Friday, December 17, 2010

The most precious possession that ever comes to a man in this world is a woman's heart ----- Josiah G. Holland

Tuesday, September 7, 2010

Your Day



My best friend gone but not forgotten........


As your Birthday draws near --- my mind drifts to you and all that might have been had you not been tragically taken from us......     Happy Birthday Johnny

We carried out your wishes --- just as you would have wanted and I kept my part of the promise...... I think you would be pleased....... 

   Dirty Blonde


When I die
Burn m y body
Take my ashes
Over the mountains
And the seas
to the places
I have lived
Sprinkle some among
 The people I use to know
Who I love
 _And sorrows leaving Only
 All the love my Heart has carried._
 And who loved me for
 there my soul shall rest
 At last - let some linger
In the breeze blowing 
 them distant places
 Where my shadow will 
Hide my Doubts........

 Courtney Love

You are missed more than any words could ever express......

Friday, September 3, 2010

There you Were...............

A lifetime of hurt
Disappointment and Failure
That haunts each day

Going through the emotion
Smiling politely
Paying bills
Keeping up the appearance of normal

Then out of the blue
 You (in a different light)
That same friend
Now seen through new eyes

How could it have taken 
So long to see  


That all I ever needed
Was standing, all along
Right in front of me.................


(c)kathey buchanan 2010 august




Sunday, August 15, 2010

As you Wish It to Be

       Revenge is a kind of wild justice.........Francis Bacon

This post is at best random - to say the least and at the heart of an issue that has been on my mind for some time now-- I will not go in detail about the issue however I need to get somethings expressed for I think I have now come to terms with them and can more clearly see how I feel since I have gotten past the anger.....

Friendship means understanding not agreement.  It means forgiveness, not forgetting.  It means the memories last, even if the contact is lost.... When friendship and/or relationships do not last forever, it doesn't mean it wasn't worth your while......

I think and believe that everything happens for a reason and while I do not always like the outcome of certain things -- I cling to the most certain faith that there is a stronger purpose for what has happened.... A friendship lost can be a most painful thing however it can be one of the most positive things too... If you take a moment to stop and be still --- just pay attention to what God is trying to tell you, often times what you will find is the greatest gift of all..... He was opening a new door... He was showing you a new way.... We get so bogged down in our friendships sometimes that we miss what is going on in our lives --- especially spiritually and God has to find a way to get our attention.... especially if that friendship is TOXIC....  I went  through something recently that I did not understand ... I was angry .. I was hurt .... and I wanted revenge.... yet as I got up this morning to a somewhat dreary rain soaked Sunday morning --- I had a different attitude about the situation.. . While I do not wish to go back in time to this friendship (it was very toxic) I do see that at one point it was of great value and does hold some good memories...... However in the blink of an eye --- something happened --to me it felt so tragic... God stepped in --- healed my heart --- and I know that there is something better for me --- I know there is a purpose for what happened and I know God will take care of it.... 

I am moving on... while I will never forget our childhood and the memories we shared.... going back isn't an option --- I feel finally I have said goodbye to that part of my past ---



Monday, July 5, 2010

In You

In the picture posted below: is a dear friend who passed away a few years ago to lung cancer. That picture is the last picture we ever took together -- It was on the 4th of July at Ocean Springs Beach -- Michael James was an exceptional man with great morals and values.  He is missed everyday by not just me but by those whom he barely knew-- he had a way of touching people with a smile or a nod, his way of letting them know they mattered even if he knew them not.... He opened his heart and his home to many, and was a lover of animals.... the year MJ passed away -- he was held at gun point by a young man and robbed -- this man spared MJ's life -- all the while his life was in danger Michael talked with calm ease to this young man and witnessed to him.... what a hero -- is this why GOD spared him on that day.... Although CANCER finally took his life ... it never took his spirit.. his famous word were always this "LOVIN LIFE,LIVIN THE DREAM"...... on any given day he would tell you this no matter his pain... he was an inspiration to many... The day he called me and said I need a babysitter and laughed -- I knew it was time.... for more than a month I did just that sit and listen and care for him and in an odd turn of events for once in our friendship I was the confidence booster, shoulder to lean on, care taker -- he had to let me be the strong person (he was such a man) -- He said his goodbyes very matter of fact like and in the end maintained his dignity... I said good bye on a Wednesday night -- with a kiss because he came to asking for sugar -- who knew -- and my friend and I lay our heads on his hands and he drifted back to sleep..... never to wake again.... On this day he is much on my mind and somewhere I know he is smiling and happy for I know he is in heaven......

In You

Monday, June 21, 2010

Not Ready --

After many years of friendship, you wake up one morning to find that the one, the very one you considered your best friend has indeed lost that wonderful thing that is usually found within the human skull called a brain..... Yes that is right they wake up one day and have lost their brain... all sense common and or book smarts... Gone right out the window... why would you claim to be best friends to someone then accuse that best friend of horrible acts that you know in your heart of hearts is and can not be true.....
When all is said and done you come running back saying I am so sorry and please forgive me... 
My answer is No... I am not ready ...Not ready to make nice....




So here ya go ex-friend --- I do not want your friend-ship anymore and I do not trust your friendship anymore...

Saturday, June 19, 2010




Someone once told me to live for the moment and I couldn't comprehend that until now...
If I plan for a tomorrow that isn't promised ... what have I left at the wayside today?
Living for today in this moment makes more sense ...
Now that I have grown a little older and a little wiser this past year...
I want today
I want this moment
I want this love, this friendship...
This happy moment
And yes even this pain
If it come with the process...
It too makes me the stronger person...
That I have become...

@KatheyBuchanan2010

Monday, June 14, 2010



While my emotions have flip-flopped, I will say this---the situation I am in
Has a quietness about it --- a subtle undertone of acceptance 
For the here and now and all that is...
Nothing more, Nothing less

It is something I have never known, therefore I am not use too...
However I am willing because I like the calm...

The peaceful pace at which my life seems to be spinning
The welcome flow of what is...

Right at this moment..

No Hurry...
No Rush...
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@KatheyBuchanan 2jan2010

Saturday, June 12, 2010

Acting As If

4Sthernbreze





You toss and turn
Reach for me
Toss and turn again 
I reach for you

We fight ourselves
In this friendship
We pretend to control

Yet we fall back to each other
As if it's all we have
Ever known...

I pretend I won't fall
As do you
Yet
Here we are

In the night
Holding each other
Laughing 
Talking
Sharing

Acting As If---?
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copyrights katheybuchanan

Thursday, June 10, 2010

You calm the troubled waters of my weary soul
You've held my hand and gave me strength
When surely I thought all reality had left me
You've prayed with me
You've cried with me
And become my friend
Surely God must be
Smiling in Heaven 
For my Heart is Full Again....